Making the best of things when life doesn’t go as planned

buffyI dreamed about the day forever. Pictured it in my mind. Thought about what I would do to celebrate.

And then it happened and everything I had planned went out the window.

The release of my debut novel, “The Yearbook Series: Gina and Mike,” happened on the same day I was taking my baby to college. It couldn’t have been worse timing.

That day was for Micah. He was my priority.


Still, I did what I could, getting the word out via social media, on the ride up and back from State College.

Was it as much as I would have liked? No. And for someone who’s a planner, it killed me that I wasn’t better prepared.

But the book release early came early, like a baby born before its time. And although I was anxious to share it with the world, I had hoped for better timing.

But isn’t that how life is? I remember when Zach, my oldest, was born. I had pictured exactly how the delivery would go. Turned out I had to have an emergency C-section. I’m not sure either of us would have survived such a difficult labor if I had lived a century ago.

But Zach was born and he was perfect — 10 fingers and toes and tiny ears that hugged his tiny head.

So what do you do when your plans blow up and you find yourself scrambling to pick up the fallen pieces?

Try this:

  • Laugh. It’s better than crying. If you can find humor in the situation you’ll be better able to deal with it.

  • Focus on what you can do. For me, that was using my cellphone and iPad to do what I could while traveling. I didn’t play victim; I took action and did what I could do.

  • Consider it a challenge. I’m not sure about you, but I love challenges. The thrill of overcoming obstacles to conquer the mountain gets me jazzed.

  • Keep it real. Remember, life is never perfect. You, and only you, are responsible for the way you react to life’s fastballs. You can either melt in a puddle of tears or stand tall and forge ahead.

  • Ask for help. That’s what friends and family are for.

  • Use it to your advantage. Hey, I got this column out of it. Enough said.

  • Remember Murphy’s Law: “Whatever can go wrong will go wrong.”

  • Keep this column. When life doesn’t go just as you had planned, pull it out and read it.

    Life is never as crappy as it sometimes seems. Cherish the good, deal with the bad and if you can roll with the punches I have a feeling that you’ll make out just fine.


    Buffy Andrews is Assistant Managing Editor of Features and Niche Publications for the York Daily Record/Sunday News. She’s also its Social Media Coordinator. Her debut novel, “The Yearbook Series: Gina and Mike,” is available on Amazon.

  • Buffy Andrews

    Assistant Managing Editor of Features and Niche Publications for the York Daily Record/Sunday News. Also, Social Media Coordinator.

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