With a little more than two weeks to go, I’d say the stress has set in. Thankfully, I have such a super, fantastic fiance to shoulder most of it.
I would be remiss if I could take credit for even a third of the wedding planning — probably less than that even, but I don’t want to sound like the worst bride-to-be ever. Christian has been amazing. More than amazing. So this blog post is dedicated to my wonderful husband-to-be.
Everyone tells you when you get engaged that your wedding should be about you and your fiance, that’s it’s YOUR day and that you shouldn’t lose sight of yourself as a couple. But that’s hard when you both get lost in the stressful details of what will probably be the biggest party you’ll ever plan. Despite that, this process has actually taught me a lot about myself and a lot about him.
While he gets cranky if he doesn’t get his way and usually prefers his own opinion to others, he’s been very kind and patient with my inability to be as involved in things as I think he would like. I am excited about the wedding; I’m just not as excited about the details as he is. But I’m so glad he is. Because those are going to be the things that help the day go smoothly and really make it the best day of our lives.
The past week has been filled with last-minute crafting, scheduling, check writing, contacting vendors for final numbers and updates, and Christian has been there for all of it. He met with the DJ while I worked in the evening. He met with and talked to distributors to make sure we could get the nut brown ale I really like. He’s on top of who needs paid and when. And he did it all without a single complaint.
This has made me realize what a wonderful choice I’ve made in picking him to spend the rest of my life with, and I’d like to publicly thank him for everything he’s done the past year. Wedding planning can create stress and drama and bring out the worst sometimes, but Christian has taken such care to make sure this day will be as perfect as it can be.
So while this blog post might not be about how to find a florist or make the best seating chart, I think it highlights the most important part of the process: each other.
While Christian has done most of the planning and crafting, we’ve had so much fun doing things together to prepare. While there were more than several disagreements over everything from whether to include the hotel website on our invitations to what color feathers are in the bouquets, I’ve felt like we’ve grown closer in planning and making things together. And even if we argued, I hope that it taught us compromise and to get over the things that really don’t matter. Which are two big keys to marriage from what I’ve been told.
Last weekend, we finally found the perfect plants for our centerpieces, and it felt good share such a small victory with him. I’m so proud of all the wonderful things we’ve made, and it’s those homemade things that will make our day so much more meaningful.
So brides- and husbands-to-be, take advantage of the process and use the time to grow closer, learn about each other and figure how you work together. Compromise, and make it “our day” not “my day.”
Check out last week’s post about finalizing our seating chart.
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