But when you couple that with transitioning from a full-time career — or even a part-time job — to becoming a stay-at-home-mom, it can become quite the culture shock.
As it turns out, motherhood is kind of a world all in its own — and it can be a lonely one if you’re not equipped for that transition to stay at home.
When you’re working, you typically have routines and a rhythm to your days. During that time, you have interaction throughout the entire day. When you’re a SAHM, those interactions sometimes go away all together. It can be hard to maintain relationships when you’re dealing with all the responsibilities of day-to-day child rearing.
In a nutshell, being a stay-at-home mom can really take a lot out of you!
I’ve been there
I went from working full time to staying at home full time. I had just moved from the suburbs to the beautiful countryside (a.k.a. the middle of nowhere), so everything in my life was a new routine. It’s funny thinking back to how ridiculous it was — I couldn’t even get cell service inside my house! This meant all phone calls had to be made standing on my front porch, which isn’t very convenient when you have a newborn inside.
I was naive enough to think that the routine of becoming a SAHM was going to be super easy. I pictured waking up and getting dressed whenever I wanted to … cuddling with my precious new baby all day … making dinner and putting it on the table by the time the hubby got home .. having a spotless house …
But there are many things that were not accounted for. Like, what sleep deprivation does to you and the way that you feel — or don’t feel — like doing things around the house. Or wanting to just hold your baby and not do anything else — for me, that was way more important than making sure the dusting was done.
I got into a rut and it was not pretty.
I had been looking forward to staying at home, and although I did enjoy being there for my son, I became overwhelmed and very lonely. The solitude was something I had not expected or planned for — especially with friends all still working at that time.
Postpartum depression set in.
Read more of Bobbie Spera’s post and her lessons learned at SimplifiedByBobbie.com.