Simplified by Bobbie: Adjusting to stay-at-home mom life

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Going from not having a baby to having a baby is difficult enough on its own, right?

But when you couple that with transitioning from a full-time career — or even a part-time job — to becoming a stay-at-home-mom, it can become quite the culture shock.

As it turns out, motherhood is kind of a world all in its own — and it can be a lonely one if you’re not equipped for that transition to stay at home.

When you’re working, you typically have routines and a rhythm to your days. During that time, you have interaction throughout the entire day. When you’re a SAHM, those interactions sometimes go away all together. It can be hard to maintain relationships when you’re dealing with all the responsibilities of day-to-day child rearing.

In a nutshell, being a stay-at-home mom can really take a lot out of you!

I’ve been there

I went from working full time to staying at home full time. I had just moved from the suburbs to the beautiful countryside (a.k.a. the middle of nowhere), so everything in my life was a new routine. It’s funny thinking back to how ridiculous it was — I couldn’t even get cell service inside my house! This meant all phone calls had to be made standing on my front porch, which isn’t very convenient when you have a newborn inside.

I was naive enough to think that the routine of becoming a SAHM was going to be super easy. I pictured waking up and getting dressed whenever I wanted to … cuddling with my precious new baby all day … making dinner and putting it on the table by the time the hubby got home .. having a spotless house …

But there are many things that were not accounted for. Like, what sleep deprivation does to you and the way that you feel — or don’t feel — like doing things around the house. Or wanting to just hold your baby and not do anything else — for me, that was way more important than making sure the dusting was done.

I got into a rut and it was not pretty.

I had been looking forward to staying at home, and although I did enjoy being there for my son, I became overwhelmed and very lonely. The solitude was something I had not expected or planned for — especially with friends all still working at that time.

Postpartum depression set in.

Read more of Bobbie Spera’s post and her lessons learned at

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3 Responses

  1. LP says:

    Thank goodness you finally recognize stay at home moms as actually existing! I would be interested in reading Smart magazine if it did address stay at home moms more, instead of “working” moms getting addressed constantly. The stay at home moms are out here…people like to make us feel bad for our decision. Many of us feel it is the right choice for our family.

  2. Bobbie Spera says:

    LP – I’m glad you can relate!! Yes, we are definitely out there and I think it’s an amazing decision to become a SAHM. 😉

  3. April Trotter says:

    Thanks for your comment, LP. We do our best to represent all women in the magazine. Our fall cover model was actually a SAHM. You can read all about her here:

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